Exactly! And exposing everyone (especially teens) to modern internet porn/sex is terrible sexual abuse inherently. The girls have been sacrificed for 20 years now, to this "sex-positive" insanity. We have been hung out to dry by the courts!
Its not about the evils of "pornography” in theory. Look at the reality. This is sucking millions of girls into it, to fuel the insatiable hetero male porn-fuelled demand for the “real thing”. A pathetic enactment of their lifelong training.
Protecting your own daughter by asking for legislative help to do something to regulate online "sex" is decried as censorship, or patriarchal “shaming”. We have terrorized a generation.
Boys get hooked by a massive dopamine hit that neuroscientists cant measure - there's no electrodes around to scan the dopamine hit of a boys first secret discovery of online "porn". This "discovery" promises to "teach" him the secret and irresistible " truth" behind women. Its hideous CSA of a teen boy. It teaches him he doesn't matter and love is a joke.
Thank you for this piece. It is so important to highlight the need for parents to restrict and monitor the role of the Internet and social media in their child's lives.
Fully unconditionally agree. It sickens me to think of how many young people have been allowed to get hurt because of their parents’ ignorance or neglect.
Keep saying this. You speak for all of us who care!
There was a tragic case in the U.S. in which two young girls were murdered by an opportunistic sexual predator (the Delphi, IN case). It later emerged that by chance, one of the murdered girls was exchanging messages with a different sexual predator online at the time she was murdered. The online predator was posing as a young, handsome model. I remember seeing comments on articles about this expressing disbelief that this young girl was being targeted by two sexual predators at once, including one who had nothing to do with her murder. But as a young woman, I was not surprised at all.
Couldn't agree more. I remember how creepy things could get as a teenager in the early oughts with AIM and seemingly innocent chat rooms. I can't imagine how it is now.. we need a new "just say no" campaign - this time for social media and honestly *most* online activity. This is a valid approach for adults too. My adult female friends are not exempt from unwanted harassment, comparison, and doom scrolling. Enough is enough.
I want to add this: I also severely restrict all internet access for my sons due to the vapidity, outright lies, and conspiracy theory pedaling that is so much of the internet. What are they learning from these showboats who are often nothing more than loud, clanging cymbals? It is my job as their mother to guide them. I am not turning their formation over to jackals!
Thank you for writing this Katherine. Parents need to realize that we do in fact have the power to protect our children from a lot, as you so clearly and courageously point out. It is okay to use our parental authority to say no to social media and devices.
I could not agree with this more! So incredibly heartbreaking, thank you for writing this and sharing. It seems like it’s not the popular thing to address, and I find comfort in knowing there are people like you and all those discussing that have the same opinion on this as I do 🤍
It's hard for us to imagine how predators like this behave, because we'd never do the same thing, but it's why blackmail works. Those predators have thought far ahead with cold calculations.
Related - it's also why baby monitors are a terrible idea:
Exactly! And exposing everyone (especially teens) to modern internet porn/sex is terrible sexual abuse inherently. The girls have been sacrificed for 20 years now, to this "sex-positive" insanity. We have been hung out to dry by the courts!
Its not about the evils of "pornography” in theory. Look at the reality. This is sucking millions of girls into it, to fuel the insatiable hetero male porn-fuelled demand for the “real thing”. A pathetic enactment of their lifelong training.
Protecting your own daughter by asking for legislative help to do something to regulate online "sex" is decried as censorship, or patriarchal “shaming”. We have terrorized a generation.
Boys get hooked by a massive dopamine hit that neuroscientists cant measure - there's no electrodes around to scan the dopamine hit of a boys first secret discovery of online "porn". This "discovery" promises to "teach" him the secret and irresistible " truth" behind women. Its hideous CSA of a teen boy. It teaches him he doesn't matter and love is a joke.
Thank you for this piece. It is so important to highlight the need for parents to restrict and monitor the role of the Internet and social media in their child's lives.
Fully unconditionally agree. It sickens me to think of how many young people have been allowed to get hurt because of their parents’ ignorance or neglect.
Keep saying this. You speak for all of us who care!
There was a tragic case in the U.S. in which two young girls were murdered by an opportunistic sexual predator (the Delphi, IN case). It later emerged that by chance, one of the murdered girls was exchanging messages with a different sexual predator online at the time she was murdered. The online predator was posing as a young, handsome model. I remember seeing comments on articles about this expressing disbelief that this young girl was being targeted by two sexual predators at once, including one who had nothing to do with her murder. But as a young woman, I was not surprised at all.
Couldn't agree more. I remember how creepy things could get as a teenager in the early oughts with AIM and seemingly innocent chat rooms. I can't imagine how it is now.. we need a new "just say no" campaign - this time for social media and honestly *most* online activity. This is a valid approach for adults too. My adult female friends are not exempt from unwanted harassment, comparison, and doom scrolling. Enough is enough.
I second all of this.
I want to add this: I also severely restrict all internet access for my sons due to the vapidity, outright lies, and conspiracy theory pedaling that is so much of the internet. What are they learning from these showboats who are often nothing more than loud, clanging cymbals? It is my job as their mother to guide them. I am not turning their formation over to jackals!
Thank you for writing this Katherine. Parents need to realize that we do in fact have the power to protect our children from a lot, as you so clearly and courageously point out. It is okay to use our parental authority to say no to social media and devices.
I am also tired of hearing feeble solutions.
Thank you, thank you, thank you for writing this!!! 🙏
I could not agree with this more! So incredibly heartbreaking, thank you for writing this and sharing. It seems like it’s not the popular thing to address, and I find comfort in knowing there are people like you and all those discussing that have the same opinion on this as I do 🤍
It's hard for us to imagine how predators like this behave, because we'd never do the same thing, but it's why blackmail works. Those predators have thought far ahead with cold calculations.
Related - it's also why baby monitors are a terrible idea:
https://romanshapoval.substack.com/p/babymonitor